It troubles me a whole fucking lot how little my family and my friends care about sexism. Here on tumblr I feel like everyone understands the implications of casual sexism, slut-shaming and ignoring rape. But out in the real world no-one seems to know or care as long as it doesn’t affect their lives.
On the rare days where I try and engage them in a conversation about it, there’s not much of a response apart from ‘oh, that’s sad’ or ‘God I really don’t want to hear about rape and blah blah blah’ with a hope that the subject will change if they just tail off and stop talking.
So I give up. But I fail to see why they don’t understand that just because it isn’t happening to you, doesn’t mean it’s not happening
We are fortunate enough to have not been victims of abuse but we all know so many people that have gone through it. To not acknowledge and try to just forget about it as an isolated sad incident conforms to our Asian upbringing of sweeping everything controversial, upsetting or potentially ‘shameful’ under the goddamn carpet.
My friends know I have strong views on a lot of things but in public I tend to just keep my mouth shut and not call people out on the things that piss me off like rape jokes and gay jokes unless it’s a close friend. But my family could give me the time of day to talk about something that is important and matters…instead they just tune anything unpleasant out
It’s fair I suppose, they think it doesn’t affect them, it’s not something fun that people want to have a long discussion about, but by not bringing this casual misogyny up and calling it out we’re just teaching another generation of girls to ‘deal with it’, ‘man up’, ‘take it as a compliment’. Accept the fact that you belong to someone else, that you are a plaything for guys in clubs to put their hands up your dress as you walk by, that you might get raped and there’s probably nothing you can do it about or anyone you can prosecute.
People who live outside of the internet still think it’s to do with how a girl dresses, how much she drinks and the fact that she walked home alone.
There isn’t much of a point to anything I’m really saying here, just a little sad that #yesallwomen and feminist progression is only in your face if you’re on twitter or tumblr. To everyone else if you bring this shit up, you’re just ranting.
All is not lost though I guess, hopefully if this movement is so strong on the internet, it has to have the power to spread to London. I hope.
Ed Sheeran’s Sing video is pretty disappointing :(
Angel Haze - Same Love
"At age thirteen, my mom knew I wasn’t straight
She didn’t understand but she had so much to say
She sat me on the couch, looked me straight in my face
And said you’ll burn in hell or probably die of AIDS”
Pansexual rapper exchanges Mackelmore’s no-homo lyrics for a freestyle about her experience as a member of the LGBTQIA+ community.